Self-confidence is defined as “the feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment” (Self-confidence, 2017). It is not something that we are born with, but rather something that becomes instilled in us over time. If I could teach a course on confidence, these are the key points I would make:
- It starts with you! No one can make you feel better than you can. You are your worst critic and your best motivator, so why not motivate yourself all the time? One thing that is important to remember is that life and death is in the power of the tongue and oftentimes, the things that we say out loud affect us mentally and emotionally. If you’re constantly criticizing yourself, then you’re going to feel bad about yourself all the time. Try and adjust your way of thinking to positive thoughts and it will make a difference in your level of confidence.
- Self-esteem is everything. It is not just about feeling good about yourself, it’s about the level of respect that you have for yourself. Think about it: if you’re in a relationship with someone who constantly cheats on you, it lowers your self-esteem because you feel like you’re not good enough to make that person stay committed to you. When you have self-confidence, you know your worth and the importance of knowing your desires and needs that deserve to be met.
- It’s an ongoing journey. Like everything in life, building self-confidence is like The NeverEnding Story. There will be times when you feel like you’re at your lowest point and then you have to find a way to pick yourself up again. It’s always important to look back on the things that you achieved, your strengths, and the things that are most important to you. Reward yourself and always do things that not only make you feel good but are good for you.
If I could offer one final piece of advice, it would be to stay committed to yourself. Sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader and motivate yourself. If you’re not going to invest in yourself, who will? Stay encouraged and trust in yourself no matter what happens.
Reference: self-confidence. 2017. In Merriam-Webster.com. Retrieved May 23, 2017, from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/self-confidence